Hi, I am Cassandra Edouard, a single mother of three beautiful children. As a child, I remember dressing up in my mother’s clothing and heels like any little girl. I wanted to be classy and dress high end. I loved fashion so much. So did my mom. I was inspired to be a model, just to be the mannequin. While in college I began to do fashion shows and after having my first child, I adventure out into the fashion industry. I began modeling doing runway and photo shoots. Even though I was in, apart of me wasn’t confident enough but enjoyed the idea of being a model.
As I got older, fashion became my first love. I felt, I didn’t have the money to afford high end, quality clothing to look like these celebrities. I love a good material. Quality over quantity anytime, however, I started to realize it’s how you put it together. When shopping, you have to be mindful of the color, texture, which is material complement your body type. I am a firm believer that you have to dress your body type, know whats a good fits good and color that complement your skin complexion. As far as the accessories, it’s just an add on feature. I would love to say dress your personality, who you are. What speaks you.
For example, I like to dress classy and sassy. I love bright colors and I am a dark skin person. I know polyester, satin, velvet, and certain cotton material complement my skin depending on color, the dress, and fit. A new thing for me. I’m starting to venture out by trying new things. It’ being simplistic, I found that speaks volume. I may wake up one morning throw on some heels and feel like Beyoncé. There are days, I may want to be like Taraji P Henson from Empire, Ciara or Rasheeda from Love in Hip Hop. Maybe Fantasia or Sarah Jakes Roberts. And I can’t forget about Coco Chanel or Marylin Monroe. In my head, I would envision myself. How I would want to look and if I was to styled myself that way.
As years go by social media started to grow rapidly. Trending started to look differently, style started to reinvent itself or shift, to now we have influencers and Brand Ambassadors taking over the Fashion Industry. They are teaching us how to put pieces together and what is trendy ti keep that sass, sexy appeal, and seductive look.
I would play dress-up and purchase certain items from certain locations and try to put them together and create a look in a style that speaks me. After having my children, my body wasn’t the same if the mothers that are out here understand what I mean by body changes. I would try to find clothing that would fit my body type, but didn’t speak to me so I knew I had to lose weight and even in the losing weight I’m trying to find the right body size that fits me. And I understand why women would want to have a mommy makeover, get their body done, and tighten up because they wanna one they’ll sell confidence to look good in the clothing that they are wearing and three not have to worry about covering hiding certain areas so you wanna be snatched in every area.
I would become insecure my self-confidence would be at zero while trying to find my identity in my femininity. I was going through those moments where I wanted a mommy makeover. I want to look good not only for my future husband, but for myself. I wanted to wear clothing that would sits well and define. I didn’t care for the butt, all I wanted was a flat stomach and a perky breast that sits up. I wanted to feel confident in my clothing.
But of course, the relationship I have a God, he was not with it. I prayed about it and he told me No. I kind of went back-and-forth with guy explain to him why I wanted it for myself and he told me at the long run. I will regret getting it done, and the man he had for me wouldn’t be pleased because he will want someone with the natural body after that he showed me what I would look like once I was to lose the weight and how I would naturally have that ideal body without tampering with it. I have nothing against women who do get their body done. Whatever makes you happy. I’m just sharing my conviction when speaking to God. Because I feel some type of way of seeing women getting it done and coming out fine. But I also felt bad for Jackie, who lost her life during her mommy make over. Being a mother of three children, I can definitely understand what it’s like wanting to do be snatched, getting your body right in tight, feeling confident, feeling feminine, feeling empowered in your womannality. Yes, I just made that up. It sounded good, so yeah instead of womanhood.
So, I decided that I’m a lose the weight and get back into my fashion game. I know how to style women I could look at a woman and tell them what they look good and based off their body tight because that’s what matters the most. See a lot of times when we see clothing we want to follow what is trending. What’s being broadcasted and promoted are propaganda’s. Major if the times, it’s so it can sell. What looks good not always good. Some may say I don’t care. I look good. We always want to give a clean and tasteful look. Everything is not for everybody. I have learned that.
I had moments in my life where I would purchase a dress or clothing and it didn’t look good on me. After trying it on. Because certain outfits you either have to be full at the top or at the bottom small at the top four at the bottom or be well grounded or have a balance or whatever. I love what I saw, but it wasn’t for me. In that moment, I already knew who would look good in white based off what I was wearing. I would call the person up or while doing clean up and say Hi, I have a dress or clothing that would be perfect fit. And guess what, it would. But it’s all about tests, trials, and errors.
One thing my aunt told me, you never know what looks good on you until you try it. It doesn’t hurt. In life we take a risk anyways. Whether in relationships, in finances, with a career, whatever it is. We gamble. So why not in fashion. I’m speaking for those who are scared to step outside the box. Like myself, always afraid to try new things even hair color makes a difference. And also our hair makes a big difference with our outfit. It has to make sense, it has be in cohesive with each other.
As for me, I knew that I can put an oufit together, but if my hair wasn’t giving, my outfit wasn’t either. With fashion, it has to make sense from head to toe. This is the part I love. Where I can look at you and say OK. Your hair has to look like this, make up needs to be done like this and then we work our way down. I have learned in the fashion industry. SIMPLE always speaks volumes, but if you’re a dramatic person and you like to be extra, you always got to give that Beyoncé loud language.
And I find myself to be a mixture, but I always love to be sassy, classy and simplistic, but speak volume at the same time. I used to be a free to be myself, because I didn’t want people to judge me or say oh my God she still extra wishes to Lowell, who she think she is, but I was rubbing myself who are truly was in my identity and not being confident in that in. and not caring about whether people like it or not. People going to judge you anyhow. And I have learned that people will judge you whether you’re doing good or bad. So who cares. I would look at the generation Z, and say to myself, they are very bold and confident in who they are because they don’t care what people think of them as long as if they feel good and they know they look good that’s what it is and I give that to them because you see that and their behavior and an attitude. Only speaking about the confidence and being bold. The dare to step out and try. I still like my classy and sassy look.
There are days, I dress based off my mood. I think you should too. One thing about me, I love me a bodycon dress and some heels. It compliments my body very well. Chile. My friends always say if you go out with Cassandra “we have to dress up and wear heels or wear a gala dress or gowns” lol. Well, at least they know me. I love to dress up and wear heels. I like to d eel classy, sassy, and sexy. It’s given. I’m a girlie girl. I love all shades of pink, heels and a purse. I’m more like Sex in the City Or I want to be in head like my girl Fantasia, she given given. Sarah Jakes Robert have been killing the game as well.
Also, I’ve learned to switch it up and be versatile. I was never a sneaker person, but I started to embrace it. See, I knew what complemented my body at the years of experimenting on myself. I was good at styling others, but not styling myself. As an upcoming stylist, if you don’t look like it, people won’t take you serious. They will question you because they want to make sure you really about that. People want to see receipts and if you don’t give receipts, they won’t invest. To all the mothers, wives, and women. Let’s change the game and slay within your own beauty, let’s accessorize our personality, speak volume, wear you, and walk gracefully.